Why You Should Be Watching Adult Entertainment For Educational Purposes

Now we all know that porn (referred to adult entertainment for the rest of this article J) gets a bad rap. We have to hide it in the back of cupboards, clear our internet history and deny all interest in it to our partners and especially our mums! Now I am talking purely about good, healthy sex and lovemaking here, mixed in with hot women and a bit of fantasy here and there. There is certainly plenty of bad stuff out there and I in no way at all condone it. Straight up stuff is fine with me and that’s what I’m talking about!

But what if there was a way that it could be justified, that viewing adult entertainment could be regarded as a selfless act and a true measure of mans continued journey to learn how to pleasure his lady? Imagine watching it for educational purposes and having your wife, girlfriend or partner look lovingly at you, smile and thank you for doing it as if you had just done all the washing and mowed the lawns while you were at it! This would be a wonderful world however I am sure by now, you see the humour and realise that this fantasy is as close to happening as us being involved in some of the plot lines in these films.

So although, you will just about never be able to justify your interest in such films, this does not mean that from time to time you should not actually take the time out to watch these movies and clips from a different viewpoint.

Put aside our male desire to see hot naked women going for it for all they are worth. Put aside the fantasy and imagination these films inspire in us and actually watch some of these movies from a technical observer’s point of view. Sounds a bit weird but you would be surprised on how much you can actually take in and learn from watching the pro’s do their stuff.

Women absolutely love men that can take control in bed and know which buttons on the female body to press, when to press them and how to press them. For the man interested in improving his lovemaking and sexual prowess, this information can be gleaned from many an adult film. Take note of the individual techniques and methods used. Keep in mind how the women are touched and how they respond and more importantly pay particular attention to the way women touch themselves to get off. Oh and by the way, don’t forget to spend plenty of time “researching” those lesbian scenes! If you are going to learn anything about how women like to be pleasured it will be by watching two women go for it! Hard work I know but try and get through it…

Now you will have to take caution here and not rely just on the screams and moans! We all know how vocal these ladies can get and it will be up to you to determine what is real pleasure and what is fake. Good luck with that one!

In conclusion, although you will never be able to justify to your wife or girlfriend that you are watching adult entertainment so you can learn how to pleasure them better, that is no reason why once in a while you shouldn’t watch some for that very reason. You will improve your skills and feel better about yourself for doing so!

So get out there and watch some porn! If you feel you are not getting it then by all means, keep watching it til you do – no one likes a quitter!

What Are The Normal Sex Positions During Pregnancy

In every woman’s life, sexual needs and desires change as the body changes during pregnancy. As the abdomen swells and the breast grows bigger, you find out that sex positions which are once comfortable and exciting becomes painful and unpleasant. The only thing to do is to try other sex positions with your partner so as to keep the comfort in your sex life.

Lots of women lose their sex desire late in pregnancy; it is not only because of their size but also they are preoccupied with the future delivery and the anticipation and excitement of becoming a new parent.

Thus, sex position like the woman on top is a great position as it takes the pressure off your abdomen and allows you as the woman to control the depth and frequency of push and power. This is sex position is enjoyed by both partners as it also gives the man great view opportunity.

Also, sideways sex position is also good during pregnancy in the sense that it keeps weight off your abdomen and supports your uterus at the same time since both of you lies on your sides facing each other. Also it helps both of you to be very intimate since you are facing each other.

Woman on back is also good thou not recommended after the fourth month of pregnancy whereby you should stop lying with your back as the weight of your uterus could block blood vessels that supply your leg and uterus. It is just like the missionary position only that there is no added pressure to your uterus or abdomen. You as the woman lie on your back and raise your knees up towards your chest. Your partner will then kneel between your legs and enters from the front. You can even add a pillow to your buttocks for more comforts and rest your feet on your partner’s chest for support.

Why Aren’t We Talking About Disability and Sex?

Most young people spend a lot of time talking about sex with their mates. All sorts of sex in fact – the other sex, our sex, how much sex, good sex and bad sex. We’re quite prepared to be upfront about the fact we think talking about sex (and thinking about it too) is totally normal and completely healthy.

Then something came along which made me realise that there was one aspect of sex we didn’t ever talk about. That something was an Oscar nominated film performance from an actress called Helen Hunt. The film is called ‘The Sessions’ and it’s all about disability and sex. I realised that we haven’t been talking about disability and sex. The issue is being brushed under the carpet and that’s not healthy. I reckon it’s time to get talking.


Sex education at most schools school is usually only really focused on relationships between people who don’t have a disability. This can mean young people with a disability are not informed about sex and relationships. Think it through and you start to realise this can add up to the idea that sex isn’t for disabled people. Reflected in the views of wider society it becomes a taboo subject.

You’ve probably seen or at least heard of the Channel 4 programme ‘The Undateables’. It’s basically a dating show for people with disabilities. The show challenges the view that having a disability somehow makes you asexual or non-sexual. It shows that disabled people, as much as anyone, want to find a partner for sex, love and all the other stuff boys and girls (or boys and boys, and girls and girls) do together.

Some people are concerned that the programme exploits people in the show. Actually, the name of the show give’s the wrong impression and is rather exploitative. ‘Undateable’ in who’s views – who is to judge. Jumping to conclusions about exploitation can result in sexual rights being compromised, leaving people feeling as if they can’t, or have no right, to sexually express themselves.


As mentioned above sex and disability is topical with the release of ‘The Sessions’. It tells the true story of a man with a man paralysed from the neck down who uses a sex surrogate to lose his virginity. The film challenges the view that people with disabilities do not want to have physical relationships. The idea that people with disabilities don’t possess sexual desires means that these desires are overlooked.

The film shows a man overcoming his own insecurities and fighting for a right that he feels he deserves. The film has done a great job at getting people talking and bringing issues into the spotlight.

Sex and disability aren’t addressed together much in films and TV. But remember when Artie from Glee lost his virginity to the hot cheerleader? One of the things that he said was that he wasn’t even sure he could have sex after his accident. This is a common worry and one that may make people cautious of entering into a relationship in the first place.


A sex surrogate is not the same as a prostitute. Sexual surrogacy is based around therapy and involves attending a number of sessions over some months. A surrogate addresses psychological as well as physical issues.

People with physical disabilities who rely on a carer find it particularly hard to have sexual relationships. Often people’s carers are their parents, who may be overprotective making it even more difficult to express sexual desires.

On one hand this can result in feelings of isolation and even shame. However some parents who are carers pay for sexual surrogates for their children when they are old enough. It isn’t part of life that a parent expects to be involved in so it can be difficult. But being open about desires can avoid resentment as it acknowledges the validity of sexual feelings.

There are some agencies that are especially for this who find sex workers for disabled people. They work within the law, have been vetted and are used to working with people with disabilities.


Back in March sex and disability were in the news when it was revealed that sex workers were being used in care homes in Sussex. The revelations had a mixed response. Some people are concerned that this opens the door to the possibility of exploitation. Others defend it, saying that the sexual surrogates are doing something that care workers are unable to, both morally and by law.

For some, using a sex worker and knowing that they can be intimate, can give the confidence that they need to be in a relationship with a more long-term partner. Learning that they have some physical sexual capability to back up their sexual desires raises their self-esteem.

Others may not want to use a sex worker and would prefer to wait until they are in a relationship. Going back to Glee, Artie was upset that he lost his virginity through ‘meaningless’ sex – albeit as an expression by a caring friend. He was excited to lose his virginity as he wasn’t sure he could have sex. After the encounter he was left wishing he had waited.

You can make your own mind up about whether first sexual encounters are always meaningful. However this reaction in itself is a reflection that people with disabilities experience the same worries about sex and love as anyone else.


There’s a lot to consider. Some have concerns that the use of sex workers could lead to abuse of vulnerable people. While sexual desires are important, exploitation is a concern. Although if you follow the thought that sex workers are themselves being exploited the question becomes who is exploiting whom.

For this reason it is important for there to be open and honest conversations about the issues. By doing this, disabled people can feel that any sexual desires they have are normal.

Half of the battle is making society more aware of the issues; this is first step to combating stigma on the subject.